Since Kamala Harris had her political career abruptly terminated last year, so many people I admired, from celebrities to strangers I thought were my friends (to cop a phrase from Bob Seger), have let me down by bending their knees to Donald Trump and MAGA. Mika Brzezinski, Kristen Welker, Bill Maher, Kasie Hunt, Jake Tapper - the list is endless, made more infinite by people who embraced MAGA before Trump forced Harris into early retirement, such as James Howard Kunstler and Elon Musk. So you can imagine how tested I was when I found a testimonial post for the late Charlie Kirk on the Instagram page of one of my favorite fashion models from the 1980s, Kim Alexis.
Kim (I call her by her first name because not only do I follow her on Facebook, I am one of her personal friends on Facebook, and remember, I have met her in person) expressed her sorrow over Kirk's death, and she also extended her condolences to Kirk's family. The reason Kim voiced sympathies for Kirk is because she had actually met him and found him to be a personable and likeable guy. Black women - including Beverly Johnson, whom Kim has worked with (and the results of their work together are stunning, of course) - would likely beg to differ, given Kirk's questionable questioning of black women's brain power, and so would I, except for a few things.
Remember, just because Charlie Kirk was a rhymes-with-glass-pole doesn't mean he couldn't be charming and engaging in a one-on-one engagement. After all, Harry Truman, upon meeting Joseph Stalin at the 1945 Potsdam conference, took a liking to him, and actor Jack Lemmon, upon meeting Fidel Castro at a film festival in Havana, said that the Cuban leader had charm "right down to his toenails." I'm sure Kim was charmed greatly by Kirk when their respective paths crossed. I'm sure Kirk - who was young enough to be my son - would have charmed me. And Kirk, to be honest, could exude charm in a public setting. One video of Kirk engaging with a transsexual person making a transition from male to female caught him saying that he personally hated the idea of injecting sex-altering drugs into anyone to change their sex and telling the individual that he/she should look inward and determine through introspection what sort of body he/she felt comfortable in. He said he was confident that he/she would make the right decision for himself/herself.
Of course, Kirk probably hoped that he/she would stay a he, but he grasped that that was not a decision for anyone other than the individual to make.
None of this, of course, excuses Kirk for being a racist, homophobic, misogynistic Christian nationalist. But none of his character deficiencies apply to Kim Alexis. Kim is a Christian, but she is not a die-hard fundamentalist. She's not a Christian nationalist. Good grief, her husband is Jewish. And I know she's not racist - not because she has black friends, but because she has white friends (some of whom I know, like her fellow models) who would not be friends with Kim if they had reason to believe she was a bigot. In short, she is not MAGA. As a Christian, she was showing charity on Instagram toward a fellow human being who was needlessly shot to death in a country with too many guns and too many people who have no qualms about using them.
And that Instagram post? Well, that's what I was slowly getting to. It's not there anymore. Kim took down the post? She did more than that. She took down her whole Instagram account. When I first saw the Kirk post, I did not leave a comment because I, quite frankly, didn't know what to say. I tried to go back to her post to see what other people were saying in response, and that's when I saw that her account was no longer available. It may remain unavailable for along time. (Her Facebook accounts, where she did not mention Kirk, are still up.)
Even though Kim did not provoke the same visceral reaction in me that made me stop watching "Morning Joe" (and the rest of MSNBC as well) when Joe Scarborough and Mika Brzezinski confessed their pilgrimage to Mar-a-Lago two weeks after the election - I didn't unfriend her on social media - she certainly hit many a raw nerve. So did Lisa MacKenzie (née Moberg), a Swedish veteran model living in the U.S. who also expressed sorrow about Charlie Kirk's death. I'm friends with her on Facebook as well, and a lot of her other Facebook friends excoriated her for her thoughts and prayers, and I had to explain to her that Americans aren't as nice to each other as Swedes are.
Kim's and Lisa's sentiments were clearly meant to be above politics, but this is a time when nothing is above politics, so it helps to be able to tell when someone is genuinely trying to express sorrow for a fellow human being's death and and when an extremist is martyring a fellow extremist. I did not find their comments worthy of me needing to cancel them. But long before Kirk was killed, I had to cancel a lot of people who expressed strong support for MAGA or bent their knees to it, be they people I knew personally or famous people I admired. And that brings my post full circle. I'm sorry to say that Kim and Lisa - both of whom I featured on my beautiful-women picture blog - are exceptions to the rule that anyone who expresses conciliatory or complimentary comments about MAGA figures ought to be canceled.
Speaking of my beautiful-women picture blog . . . It's been three months and change since I terminated it, and given how many of the women I featured turned out to lack inner beauty - most of them corporate-media reporters who coddle Trump when they should know better - I don't regret my decision one iota.